Family Counseling: Reflection of a Christian Counselor

Family Counseling: Reflection of a Christian Counselor

Lai Cheung WONG

With the prevalent influence of psychological/counseling theories, the integrity of pastoral care is under threat. Despite a flourishing development of psychological theories in the people-helping profession, the author, from a Christian point of view, raises concerns about this development. They include the risk of justifying human problems, neglect of human sins, inadequate reflection on ethical issues, isolation of individual problems and arrogance of professionalism. Responses to the advance of psychological theories are various. Some adopt an open attitude, perceiving psychological theories as good resources for pastoral counseling. Some are skeptical and critical over the use of them. Some advocate a firm biblical stance when using these theories. Finally, some propose a mutual dialogue between theology and psychology.

In this paper, the author argues that psychological theories are indeed effective lenses for pastoral counselors to view human problems, as long as they are used discreetly. Pastoral counselors should not only adopt the skills offered by these theories but must also be ware of their underlying value and philosophy. There is a tendency among practitioners to be subjective and functionalistic with psychotherapeutic knowledge. The result will lead both practitioners and clients to forget the place of Christ. A wise use of psychotherapeutic knowledge depends on the quality of life of the practitioners.

In a research conducted by the author years ago, it was found that the choice of counseling theories is a reflection of the counselor's worldview, personality and personal experience. In other words, we should not be fearful of the advancement of psychological theories. Rather the life of counselors should be the focus of concern. If they maintain a healthy psyche and an independent thinking ability, these psychological theories can be helpful tools for counselors to help the people of the church. Finally the implication of the above for the training of Christian counselors are drawn.